Memorial benches are special places where people can sit and remember loved ones. These benches help families honor people who have died. But what should you write on them?
Common Memorial Bench Messages
Most families choose simple messages for their benches. Popular choices include:
- Names and dates (birth & death)
- “In loving memory of…”
- “Forever in our hearts”
- Bible verses or quotes
- Hobbies the person loved
Research shows that 85% of memorial benches include the person’s full name. About 70% also show birth and death dates.
A Real Family’s Story
The Johnson fam. chose a bench for their dad, Robert. He loved birds and spent hrs. watching them in the park. Their bench says: “Robert Johnson 1945-2020 – He found joy in every bird song.” The msg. captures who he was as a person.
The bench sits near the pond where Robert fed ducks every morning for 20 yrs. Now his grandchildren sit there and remember his stories about different bird species.
Keeping It Personal
Memorial benches work best when they show the real person. Think about what made your loved one special. Did they:
- Love gardening? Mention flowers or plants
- Enjoy reading? Add a quote from their favorite book
- Help others? Write about their kind heart
- Make people laugh? Include something about joy
Studies from the Memorial Bench Assoc. show personal messages help visitors connect better with the memory.
What Fits on a Bench
Most benches have limited space. Standard benches hold about 100-150 characters total. This includes spaces and punctuation. Plan your message first on paper.
Materials That Last
Bronze plaques last longest but cost more. Stainless steel works well too. Avoid materials that rust or fade in weather. Good materials keep your message clear for decades.
Getting Permission
Many parks require permits for memorial benches. Contact your local parks dept. first. Some places have waiting lists. Others have specific rules about messages.
The American Parks and Recreation Society states that 90% of cities allow memorial benches with proper permits.
Final Thoughts
Memorial benches create lasting tributes to special people. Choose words that capture their spirit. Keep messages personal but simple. Check spelling twice. Follow local rules.
Your bench will give families and friends a peaceful place to remember and honor your loved one for years to come.